In the name of being Christian, many men strive to be nice guys. But while going through life wearing a smiley face may please other people, it doesn’t always please God. God wants men to be agents of redemption in our fallen world – and that sometimes requires behavior that’s not „nice.“
Living the life of power God wants for you means being a good guy rather than a nice guy. It means being bold enough to leave passivity behind and proactively confront injustice.
Here’s how you can stop being a nice guy and start being a good guy:
Look at the real Jesus. If you look beyond the sanitized caricature of Jesus as gentle, meek and mild, you’ll discover how He embodied masculinity at its best. He balanced love and truth with courage in every situation. He was proactive and commanded respect. He didn’t hesitate to display such rugged qualities as toughness, bravery, assertiveness, protectiveness, vitality, intensity, firmness, cunning and shrewdness.
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Answer: To be assertive is to exude bold confidence in speech or behavior. Assertiveness, when taken to extremes, can devolve into pushiness or brashness; however, assertiveness can also be a positive quality that we ask God to give us. We all need to be assertive in some ways.
In Ephesians 6:20, Paul asks his friends to pray that “I might speak boldly as I ought to speak.” As a prisoner in chains, Paul’s natural boldness and courage had evaporated. It is difficult to speak assertively when we find ourselves in humbling situations. So Paul relied on prayer and the power of the Holy Spirit to speak with confidence to those around him, even though his natural tendency would have been to retreat into silence. The people he interacted with daily may have been guards, jailers, servants, and curious onlookers. Many of those had the power to make his situation more difficult, so he asked for prayer that he might not give way to fear and intimidation.
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I know I am not a particularly assertive person but I continue to work at it. Through studying the art of assertiveness and teaching it as part of my work my interest and fascination continues to grow and my skills improve overtime…
BEING ASSERTIVE LIKE JESUS _